Sticks & Stones: Overcoming the Culture of Bullying

Discussing about bullying in Deaf community is important–can we ignore this invisible problem?

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Train Our Minds to See Good in Deaf Returnees

When a Deaf returnee (returning citizen/returned citizen) denied, he/she are separated from Deaf community. First, Deaf returnees seek rehabilitation is not illegal and the law says they shall be treated respectfully. According to the United States Constitution, Eighth Amendment.

Second, as it is, Deaf returnees are guilty and incarcerated without due process. So much for compassion and following the rule of law. Most of Deaf returnees are receiving harsh treatment than they had their entire lives. Dealing through harassment is a depressing task. So much cruelty, so much lack of empathy or understanding or even basic human caring.

Those Deaf returnees are humans. Do any of you that support this know any Deaf returnees personally? This is not how Deaf community treats the awareness among us. Remember, humanity has been at this crossroads before.

Culture of fear is what will fail. Deaf community should be accurate and fair. On the other hand, rejecting Deaf returnees from Deaf community seek to minimize the profound damage that culture of fear is doing to us. This practice is a witch-hunt. It has to be critically examined and discussed.

If you want to go that route, then it is just what it is, but states, counties, cities needs rehabilitation, not retribution. Do we understand that oppression used to justify the ownership of Deaf community?

Deaf returnees are being taken away from Deaf community are traumatized enough and it does infect harm. It is a fact. The pain, anguish, fear, raging through rumor-mill who lives in culture of fear. It is shameful, and it has no place in the heart of Deaf community. Who in their right mind takes a Deaf returnee on a difficult journey while knowingly being punished daily? Why do Deaf community continue on this path of cruelty? What price will Deaf returnees pay its final reckoning due? One Deaf person sent me this quote few weeks ago to remember by:

“Train your mind to see the good in every situation”- Buddha

It would be nice to train our minds to see the good in every situation what Deaf returnees can contribute back to Deaf community.

For Deaf returnees who seeks Deaf-centered counselors, please visit

www.deafcounseling.com

-JT

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Dwight Benedict: Stop the Practice of Discrimination, Shaming, and Cruel Punishment

World Mental Health Day: The Modern Struggle For Deaf Returning Citizens

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I would like to share my reflections about World Mental Health Day yesterday (October 10th). My apologies not for finishing up a post on time. It is very important to share more awareness about mental health that impacts Deaf community—especially Deaf returning citizens in Deaf community.

Depression is part of mental health; the stigma connected with Deaf returning citizens is unbearable. The public consciousness about Deaf returning citizens has been a failure of an evolving cultural understanding of mental health among them.

The phrases may haunt them each day. All these years later, they may be struck with shame. The state of being Deaf returning citizens was an “easy job” to ignore and not reported as violating their human dignity and thrown away on the side of the road where the cars would run over them. There was no raised questions from mental health professionals who are hearing who claimed that they are experts in understanding Deaf world. It makes things worse.

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Today, there is ONLY ONE Deaf-centered counseling center in America, Deaf Counseling Center. Without Deaf mental health experts (bless them!), Deaf returning citizens would feel paralyzed whether to share their struggles or not. There is a quote that should be seen:

Should you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities. Remember this, things could be much worse. You could be one of them.”-Unknown.

Mental health awareness helps to distract all the negative labels in their lives by getting themselves involved with educational jaunts, and Deaf-centered licensed therapists. Is it fair to use a distasteful mental image to prove a point, even if that mental image relies on stereotyping of Deaf returning citizens?

Labeling hurts the most. Mental health awareness can make all the difference to understand the gravity of their experiences. In the Deaf community, there are plenty of hardships that Deaf returning citizens suffer and even think it is OK to bully other Deaf returning citizens who were going through what they had been through. Deaf community ranks one of the highest percentage—lack of mental health awareness and educate the most serious consequences they would face with.

-JT

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Suicide is a Big Problem in Deaf Community

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One problem with labeling that leads to suicide in America are that both sides it is ruled by emotion rather than fact. There is a big reason suicide view, as public health issue that is not enough discussed in Deaf community.

Today in Deaf community that suicide is still shaped by what happened between these mental health professionals.  How come suicide is not viewed as a social disease in Deaf community? The result is that the suicides over the role of hearing mental health professionals has been left policymakers flailing in the dark, with little more than gut feelings to guide them. In the area of what works to prevent suicides in Deaf community, we know almost nothing.

Do we really need to wrestle with the issue of how to label Deaf returning citizens? Words matter in our world. Is water boarding torture? Is someone a bigot or a hater? Is a politician liberal or progressive? The Deaf community needs to recognize that language is a living thing does not always fully capture the cultural and contextual meaning words take on—but at the end of the day, Deaf returning citizens to people seems more accurate than “ex-convict”, “former criminal”, “ex-con”, “jail bird”.

Labeling, in my opinion, an inevitable and direct result of our societal “culture” of hate-motivated themes. In doing so, I discounted the notion that it is haters and expressed, rather, my belief that as survivor of hate crimes is a systemic oppression it is, in fact, all people who are a part of it and who bear both a collective responsibility for it and for fighting with our Deaf returning citizens to end the oppression.

While haters and oppressors very favorably received this suicide, it also elicited a very strong and negative reaction from many people, and some of them, who objected to it on the inaccurate grounds that it supposedly “blamed” people for the specific crimes of Deaf returning citizens and it painted all people as equally culpable.

Is it time to support DEAF community and stop hate speech? Is it also time to advance our knowledge that hate speech actually exists in our life? A lot of Deaf returning citizens put on a mask when they step outside.

I think it is important to deal with the defensive response and what the nature of systemic oppression on Deaf returning citizens really means in for human emancipation. Suicide is real. No one, understandably, wants to think or to acknowledge that the haters, personally, may be part of the problem. And this is part of the problem.

It is easy to condemn this troubled Deaf community because of labeling. That is the kind of reactionary thinking the average Deaf returning citizen in America. There are plenty of brutish lynch mob mentality and find cruel punishment by Deaf community.

Labeling is offensive to culture and deemed ill. Labeling should be considered as a sociological problem but the soul and heart of human needs to be addressed.  Something is missing. Labeling Deaf returning citizens is dreadful enough that people makes wish to put them on an an island off the coast, someplace dreadful. No one else can live on the island, only haters to provide a service. Deaf returning citizens could not able to receive treatment, both medically and spiritually, but not through religion.

We need to address labeling in Deaf returning citizens to turn the problem in our culture around. Deaf returning citizens must be invested in creating a better life situation for themselves with the help of Deaf community. When we do not address them, we fail to grow as a culture and we fail to stop that kind of injury from our collective body and mind.

As a nation, we have failed to address the problem: Recognizing suicide tendencies. I am all for rehabilitation, especially in the most tragic cases, such as Deaf returning citizens facing suicide every day.

-JT

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2016: The Year of Bullying

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The picture was taken in 2013. Washington, D.C.;

The year, 2016 has been one of the most difficult years for me. I will not tolerate bullying or bullies.

-A Deaf individual who is in circle of De’VIA made up worst lies about me.

-A Deaf author threatened my life and shared nasty and inaccurate information with other people about me.

-A Deaf President for an organization has allowed haters to expose my life.

-Another De’VIA artist shared ugly rumors to other people claiming that I have Asperger’s Syndrome.

-A Deaf returned citizen accused me of stealing my own organization logo.

-I lost my grandmother and grandfather four months apart.

-Oh yes, another De’VIA artist asked someone to shove my shoulder while walking during homecoming week at Gallaudet University. A witness supported me and knew that they did it on purpose.

-A Deaf administrator gave me a DEATH STARE.

-I had a massive heart attack and cardiac arrest—resulting in death for ten minutes.

-This is my FIFTH heart attack.

-The same Deaf returned citizen above wished that I die even after recent heart attack.

-Wait. There are more…..Countless.

I have experienced plenty of hate incidents and bullying the last six years since my soul showed up in social media and in public—sharing my fundamental elements of democracy and my knowledge about hate crimes. In today’s Deaf community, incivility and bullying is a NORM just like President-elect Trump’s new NORM. In the culture of bullying even in Deaf community is not limited to Deaf people, but it is also a national past time.

Research has showed that Deaf people who are bullied or cyber-bullied face increased risk for depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, and suicidal attempts, too. As well as being exposed to stress living in a toxic environment would increase the chances of developing coronary heart disease.

Yet, the cardiologist said that I’m very lucky not to have any kind of brain damage. Usually when someone die for more than five minutes, brain damage begins. Even when I was in ICU, the doctors said that I’m strong as an ox.

I have been dealing with worst things in my life, being bombarded with the nasty words and images about me every day. You all really do not KNOW my life stories. To be honest with you, I am not holding my breath and I will stand up against bullies anytime including Deaf leaders, too. I am much stronger than you really think of me. It is all about developing thicker skin, but is it really necessary? Despite the hate attacks by De’VIA artists, I still keep the artworks because hate does not win. Even those people above did not win either. It is not win-win situation.

In 2017, you will see a lot of things that will make Deaf community think. Peace and prosperity.

Additional link:

https://audismnegatsurdi.com/2016/08/18/beyond-labeling-the-role-of-awareness/

-JT

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